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  • Susan Fletcher, Ph.D.

You Are Who You Are Today & It’s Perfect

This may be too much for some of you. It's about body image. Whether you are a man or a woman, the way you feel about yourself is influenced by your perception of how you look compared to others.

It's true.

Here is something for you to think about.

Vulnerability is not a weakness. Vulnerability is how we connect with other people. I propose it is also how we connect with ourselves.

When we have a full range of feelings, we have depth. When we have depth, we can be vulnerable.

I'll take a relationship with someone who is comfortable with themselves any day. You learn to be comfortable with yourself by allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

You learn to be comfortable by going deep emotionally.

I recently learned about a project called, "The What's Underneath Project". It's a little racy but I think you can take it. It challenges your perception of body image and vulnerability. It will make you think and it is not for small children.

From their website

StyleLikeU is an online multimedia platform that celebrates individuals who possess an authentic personal style. With a hyperawareness of marketing and traditional standards of beauty because of their backgrounds in the fashion industry, Elisa and Lily seek to shatter misconceptions about personal style, and bring a body-positive edge to StyleLikeU.

One of the site’s ongoing projects is called "The What's Underneath Project," and it’s all about literally and figuratively stripping down to demonstrate how garments make up only one facet of personal style. StyleLikeU’s “What’s Underneath” is a series of videos in which Elisa and Lily interview individuals from all walks of life, and ask them to remove pieces of clothing throughout the interview. “We’ve asked a select group of individuals to participate in a project in which they will remove their clothes to honor how style is not the clothes you wear,” explain Elisa and Lily of the project.

You will find these videos are powerful. For more videos, go here:

If you know me, you know that I'm not promoting taking your clothes off on camera. You know that some of the language in the videos is a bit edgier then my day-to-day vocabulary.

If you know me, you know why I would want to introduce these videos to you.

It's because anything I can do to promote your ability to be vulnerable, in good taste, I will do.

If you don't think these are in good taste, I can accept that. If you watch one of these videos and it forces you to look at your bias about yourself or someone else, then I've done my job.

As the young woman in the video says, "You are who you are today and it's perfect". I have to say . . . I agree.

Until next time,

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