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The Way Children of Divorce Love Differently

March 8, 2016


I get asked this question all the time: “How does divorce interfere with the ability of children to love in their own relationships as adults?”


Gosh, that is such a big question. I always try to answer it. Typically I answer with this information:

  • Their adjustment to divorce depends on how he or she has coped with other changes in their lives.  A child’s ability to adapt, in general, is one consideration in how well that child will cope with divorce.

  • Temperament is also one of the influencers of how a child is able to love in their own relationships as an adult.

  • The amount of chaos and the amount of conflict can interfere with a child’s ability to progress developmentally.  That certainly is another influence on later relationships.

Oh – there are more answers I give based on my education, experience, and the gobs of longitudinal studies that have been done.


How nerdy of me.


Recently I stumbled upon a better answer to the original question.  I want to pass it on to you – out of the mouth of someone who is a child of divorce.  This blogger hit the nail on the head in terms of her experience as a child of divorce and how she experiences love differently.


You need to read her blog post if you are:

  • A parent who is divorced

  • A parent in the process of divorcing

  • A parent who is thinking of divorcing

  • An adult whose parents have divorced

  • You are dating someone whose parents have divorced

Read her words and she will help you understand How You Love Differently When You are A Child of Divorce.


A child of divorce can love – they just love differently.  


Knowing this can help.  Let me know what you think, even if you disagree, by emailing me at


Until next time,





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